When we experience trauma, we not only have picture memories of trauma we also have body memories. Our nervous systems remember trauma. Because our nervous systems are designed to kick in automatically when there is a threat (real or perceived), the part of our brain that accesses rational thought goes offline to preserve energy. When you couple this survival response with a history of trauma, a person can experience devastating effects especially in their relationship with others. Proper cognitive processes slow and the social engagement system shuts down leading to loss of friendship and community. This is why trauma can be so isolating. Our bodies instinctually shut down certain mechanisms in the system to preserve energy in order to survive. The problem with this is, while it is helpful and life saving in the middle of active trauma, it is detrimental if this survival response continues after the trauma has passed. It keeps us stuck in a trauma that is no longer happening
Oftentimes on the outside, the behaviors of trauma survivors don’t make sense to others, even close family and friends. Behaviors and reactions of trauma survivors can be seemingly unpredictable, confusing, contradictory and lead to pathologizing diagnosis and discouragement. Our nervous system is a wonderful gift. It helps us enjoy life, savor positive experiences, build healthy relationships and connections. It also helps us survive the most devastating and painful experiences life sometimes brings. If trauma is not properly processed, it and can cause our nervous system to get stuck in the past experience of trauma.
But there is hope! When there is a comprehensive understanding of trauma and how it manifests in the system, the reactions and behaviors of trauma sufferers do make sense and it is treatable. For the trauma survivor and their loved ones, if proper education is given surrounding trauma and the effects it has on the neuropsychological system, it becomes more easily explained and understood. This allows not only for the person to finally experience the relief of being seen and heard, it also brings a much needed sense of clarity to their family members and friends. You make sense, your behaviors and reactions make sense, you are not crazy!